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Here we are, after all these years of waiting I get to see the you in the dress, and let me tell you, you look absolutely gorgeous. You are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen and I am excited to spend the rest of our lives together. You already know that I love you. But today is different, I am here today to commit my love to you in front of all these people we know and love. I want our friends and family to hear from my mouth the promises I will, by God’s Grace, fulfill throughout our marriage together and that I want them to see that it is you who I am putting first from this day forward. I will do all of these things because I love you, although it is a fallible love but we have built our relationship for five years on the infallible, unmistakable, and faithful love of our Savior, Jesus Christ. I will put UB4Me to represent and honor the love Christ has displayed for us. I pray that we both will fulfill the roles as husband and wife, working together toward one common purpose: to glorify and honor God.
I promise to try to meet your needs physically, emotionally, and spiritually in all types of days we have in marriage. I will listen to you when you are hurt, thankful, or discouraged. I will cherish you even when you are having a bad day or when I am frustrated and stubborn. I will thank you for what you do, and who you are. I will forgive you quickly and lead you in prayer, encouragement, and in God’s word. I will initiate prayer with you when you need it most and least expect it.
I will keep your gas tank full and change your oil. I will kill the spiders both high and low, even if I rather put them outside. I will ALWAYS finish the food you just can’t seem to finish off and continue to eat the pepperoni off your pizza. I will make sure you have the proper amount of sauce for your tacos and I will accept that it will always be eaten doused in sauces, no matter how much of a mess you make. If there is a bump in the night I will check it out to make you always feel safe in our home. When I accidentally swing my arm around and hit your head with my elbow I will apologize and kiss your forehead. I will send you gifts, flowers, and notes that will be left in random places at random times. They may be on special days or may just be because I love you a little extra on a Tuesday. I will take you out on dates when you need it most and buy you ice cream when you crave it late at night.
If God is willing to bless us with children, then I will lead them in the ways of the Lord. I will be merciful and loving to them while teaching them the truths and the promises of our Lord Jesus. I will lead in the responsibility of bringing up our children in discipline and instruction, yet I will be united with you in the disciplining because you are my wife and helpmate.
I will not let anger rule over me or our home. I will forgive you to reflect the attitude, love, and grace of God. I want to be a good steward of God’s grace, but when I am not, I know you will help me along with encouragement and affirmation. As Christ continues to love me through all my trials and mistakes, I will continue to love you through sickness, health, and I will choose to love you through thick and thin, even if the feelings of love may fade away.
I pray that how we will relate to one another as a married couple will witness to others that our lives are pointed to Christ and that our relationship is defined not by our nature, but by Him. Together I pray that we will seek an intimate relationship with Christ, the one we both will stand before face-to-face in the end.
I love reading Proverbs 31 and finding the many characteristics in those passages that you have become and continue to be naturally. My favorite passage in Proverbs 31 is verse 25 where it states, “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.” Ever since I met you and spoke to you those halls of Manchester, I have always admired how you have always laughed at the future and looked forward to the days of Christ’s return and reign in heaven. I love that you allow God to work in and through me by The Holy Spirit in order to shape me into the man HE wants me to become, not the guy you want me to be. You remind me that we are to put our hope in the promises of God, and not each other. As God continues to be faithful, by God’s grace and power I will be true and faithful to you for the rest of my life.
I pray that God will enable me to live out these promises that I share before you publicly, He has already shown us His faithfulness over the past five years, I know and pray that we will continue to recognize His love throughout our marriage. I pray that we will fulfill these promises only to glorify Jesus Christ and not for our own selfish desires. Before our family and friends, before you, and before our Lord and Savior, I commit these promises to you! Today I am filled with joy to become your husband!
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My vows to my bride